As a faithful Christian woman, I am often confronted by non-Christians with the idea that a childâs âindoctrinationâ into his or her parentsâ religion is child abuse, reasoned by the idea that geography and chance (who your parents are) are the only thing determining a childâs god. First, Iâd like to clear up any misconceptions about what âindoctrinationâ is before I move on to the similarities in child-rearing between believers and non-believers. Iâll wrap things up by explaining why oneâs belief in God is not a geographical, cultural or environmental mandate but rather something with which we are inherently born.
Just the word alone â âindoctrinationâ â has a secretive and shady sounding nature to it. We always think of manipulation of the mind when we hear the word used, especially in religion. If one were to Google the definition, the very first result that comes up tells us that it means, âteaching someone to believe a set of beliefs without questioning them.â There is also the common misconception that Christians are taught the concept of âblind faith,â but this could not be further from the truth; however, this false notion is often used to justify that we are âindoctrinatingâ our children into believing in God. We are actually told over and over in the Bible to have faith BECAUSE (and only after) we have seen, to âProve all things; hold fast that which is good.â â 1 Thessalonians 5:21 AKJV. Testing for truth is a very common theme throughout the entire Bible.
Speaking of common themes, it is a common desire for parents of any faith or lack thereof to raise their children up to believe or not believe the same as they do. It is only human nature to run our households and raise our children the way we see fit, with the hopes that our children grow up to believe or not believe what we as parents believe or donât believe. So, if âindoctrination of a child into their parentsâ religion is child abuse,â then âindoctrinationâ of a child into their parentsâ lack of belief is also child abuse. But, again, itâs not indoctrination (in EITHER case) if itâs taught to be questioned. If one is not willing to allow their child to hear about God â or other religions or beliefs (or lack thereof) â that is indoctrination because itâs purposely not giving them anything to question! Whereas Bible-believing Christians know that God gave us free will and allows us to question ALL things and make our OWN decisions, including letting our children make THEIR own decisions. This is not to say that a Christian parent whose child grows up and turns away from God is not heartbroken, because it is devastating â a pain like no other imaginable and the kind of pain that nobody without God could ever understand.
Now letâs question the idea that geography and chance are the only things determining a childâs god. Yes, different geographical locations have different customs and beliefs that most would hold fast to until death. From birth, children are âindoctrinatedâ into believing certain things based on their parentsâ beliefs that were passed down from generation to generation. So yes, most belief systems are, to an extent, geographically, culturally and environmentally influenced. However, there is an exception to this â a god who knows no boundaries or borders, who doesnât care about customs or heritage â except this isnât just âa god,â it is God with a capital âG.â
The idea of geography and chance as the only determining factors in someoneâs belief system is illogical at best. Evidence of this can be found in the fact that God (as opposed to any and all other âgodsâ) has been found, at some point, in virtually every culture, every geographic location and every type of household environment, including in that of atheist parents. And in some cases, children have brought the Gospel to their atheist parents who later accepted Christ!
No, the belief in God is not a social construct, but a spiritual one. One that lives in our hearts and cannot be exterminated no matter how far removed we are from Him and His word in the physical realm. He has always been there, is there now, and will always be in the future. Itâs why you wonât find true believers arguing with non-believers on atheist websites but will find non-believers relentlessly pursuing answers from believers on Christian-themed sites â itâs because non-believers have not found the truth yet. Subconsciously, they are not satisfied with the answers that atheism gives them because the answers are incomplete at best, outright lies at worst and in reality. And ironically, they are following the very command from God that I quoted earlier by continuing their line of questioning.
The truth is, there are countless ways to come to Christ, and all of those ways are spiritual; none are confined to oneâs locale or heritage. Oneâs belief in God may, in some cases, begin as a result of social construct, but that person will never truly come to Christ based solely on their environment. Although you might hear a believer credit their parents for raising them up right with Godâs word, you will never hear a believer say that they believe in God simply based on the fact that somebody they know and trust believes in God, or because itâs how they were raised, or because belief in God was popular in their culture when they were younger. Ironically, Iâve actually been told by an atheist that, âOh, you know us millennials â we donât believe in God.â This young lady had NO actual reason on which to base her lack of belief! She said it in a manner that implied that millennials were somehow smarter than their previous generations, but clearly showed her own lack of intelligent reasoning with her statement that she did not expound upon.
Now, if a Christian were to tell another older Christian, âOh, you know us millennials â we all believe in God, but they could not answer WHY all millennials believe in God, the older Christian would be very concerned that they werenât really a Christian. You see, Christians ALWAYS have reasons why they believe in God. And as a Christian, we expect that other Christians CAN and WILL be a witness for Him. We would have a conversation with that millennial to get to the bottom of it, because we donât want somebody to miss out on eternal salvation simply because they didnât know about it. And, truth be told, it doesnât make us sound very credible as Christians if we canât even defend our stance. That said, Iâve never, in all my years of âdebatingâ in online forums, EVER seen an atheist confront another âatheistâ who doesnât have reason any reason to be atheist other than because, âOh, you know us millennials â we donât believe in God.â THAT seems to fit the stereotype of an indoctrinated atheist, donât you think? And why arenât other atheists calling these people out for making them look bad?
I digress, back to the many ways people come to accept Christ. Some come to Christ when they are at the lowest point in their lives. They call out to God, begging Him for help, begging for His mercy. And that, my friends, is why God allows (versus makes) bad things to happen to âgoodâ people, because some of us are never going to accept Him otherwise.
Some people call out to God on their deathbed, after spending their whole lives denying Him and refusing to even entertain the idea that He might be real. They suddenly know somehow that Jesus is real, and that theyâve been given a final second chance.
Some grow up with atheist parents and still have an innate sense about God that they canât help but explore. They discover what they believe is the Truth and sometimes even share Godâs word with their parents, who in turn accept Christ!
Tribal members in far-away lands that have seemingly no concept of God â as demonstrated by cannibalism and human sacrifice with no remorse â come to Christ after hearing about Him the very first time from a missionary.
Others grow up in church with Bible-believing parents but reject what they were taught, and go off on a mission to prove that God does not exist, only to have all of the evidence point them to archaeological, scientific and historical proof of accounts that were detailed in the Holy Bible, to the point that they can no longer deny Christ. Some of these people have been famous, respected atheists and scientists who end up being the biggest defenders of Godâs word, and just as famous and respected as Christians, by Christians, as they were as atheists, by atheists.
Some simply believe in God because theyâve seen His hand in everything, and itâs never a question in their minds that this beautiful world that we live in and the detail and complexity of even the smallest of life forms cannot be accidental or unintended but can only be the work of a Creator with a plan.
Others spend their whole lives believing in God, even accepting Christ, but never actually developing a relationship with Him until much later in life after a spiritual encounter with their Creator.
And yes, there are those who come to Christ because they are afraid of eternal damnation in hell. But as you can see in my previous examples, for many Christians, fear of the reality of spending an eternity in hell is not the driving force in their acceptance of Christ (although Iâm certain it would not be pleasant). Some even get there simply by being grateful for Christâs sacrifice for us.
You see, our belief in God is determined in a vast variety of ways, some of us even before we knew about heaven and hell. And for the record, most of us donât view hell as a punishment, but rather Heaven as a reward. So yes, there are many ways to come to truly come to Christ, but none of those ways include a direct result of God being a social construct.